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Christmas Serenity

Christmas Serenity
Christmas Season- Quiet Time Serenity

 One of the most critical things in life to learn is our own self identity…..  I have spent so much of life dealing with the some of the below truths!!!!  Some will learn to reflect on their lives and do something about it to grow.  Others…… will choose to protect themselves from positive growth due to fear.   I have spent way too much time of my life hiding here and there in pain of self esteem.  It is one of the hardest steps to let go and be honest with ourselves….  If we are being honest and are looking deeply at ourselves we will find that we do sometimes feel insecure, inadequate, sometimes unloved, sometimes afraid, sometimes unsure, sometimes trapped, sometimes incapable, sometimes not good enough and sometimes afraid to fail.  We have a tendency to hide our real emotions.  I challenge you today.,   It's time to be courageous and wear your heart on your sleeve. The more that you can acknowledge your shortcomings and work on them the greater your life will grow to be fulfilling.   Take a step in being honest with yourself.  Then… realize…...no one is better than another……. We are all human…. Born to love in moments…. .Born to suffer in moments…..Born to succeed in moments….Born to fail in moments….  Born to be angry in moments. Just never give up on trying to be the best person you can be today.  Tomorrow is another day….. A new day to begin trying to be a better person than we were the day before!

 We are human!  
Mr. “P”



Here are brutal 10 truths that no one wants to admit about themselves:

1. You chase success because you have a deep-seated fear of being a failure.    Who would you be without your accomplishments? How about instead..... taking each moment of success and failure as a tool of learning? We cannot become great at anything without trials of success and failure. We must practice, practice and practice to learn how to improve towards success. Success at doing something comes from practicing the moment or the thing over and over. An example would be baking a pie.. It is not going to be award winning the first time. Practice Practice Practice... By the way feel free to send your pies to me to sample! LOL! The same with sports. In order to become the all star you have to learn to grow from the errors and mistakes and keep practicing until their is less errors and things become muscle memory.

2. You care more about what other people think than about what you think--and it's destroying your confidence.  When your focus is external, you lose internal strength. Be true to yourself!

3. You desperately want approval from others and you're willing to sacrifice aspects of your true self to receive it.  Life is a series of games--make sure you find the one that's worth playing.

4. You're petrified of the sense of emptiness inside yourself, so you fill your life with distractions to keep yourself occupied.  Watching TV, online shopping, and perusing social media can all be used as convenient escapes that prevent you from engaging in deep self-reflection.

5. You blame other people for your problems so that you can feel better about your own shortcomings. Displacement and projection help you decrease self-accountability. In other words... Sometimes people have the tendency to focus on the problems of others so they do not have to focus on their own short-comings that need to be addressed.

6. You get angry at aspects and traits of others that you identify with.  Next time you get really angry at someone, contemplate what makes you angry, and then think about how you yourself may have done something similar in the past.

7. You avoid dealing with your emotional issues despite knowing that they cause problems for everyone. It's time to start taking your emotional well-being seriously.

8. You're terrified of being seen for who you really are so you wear a masquerade that helps you feel more accepted.  Showing others what they want to see isn't authenticity, it's fear or manipulation.

9. You enhance your image on social media to mask your feelings of inadequacy.  Every like, comment, and share is a short-lived ego boost.

10. You pressure yourself to be perfect or care for others because that was the only way you could receive love as a child.  Go to the root, address the issue, and practice healthier ways of being in the world.



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